Marla Martenson:  I guess my job as a matchmaker was just meant to be. I answered an ad in the back of an actor’s newspaper over six years ago and the rest is history. 
 

My years working as a matchmaker has taught me that finding your soul mate is not like buying a car and ordering custom rims, leather seats and surround stereo.
 

I try to encourage my clients to be open minded and meet different types of people in order to find the right chemistry for romance. 
 

Marla: Some big mistakes I see women making in the quest for finding true love is being closed minded about meeting men who might not fit their exact specifications for example some women will only date men who are over six feet tall. The average American male is 5’9’.  There is a plethora of shorter guys who are wonderful but over looked by a lot of women. 
 

Another mistake I often see especially working in Los Angeles are women holding out to marry a multi millionaire or billionaire. I like to encourage women to find the power and creativity within themselves and make their own money. Find a good, honest loyal man who will love you forever and team up with him. Together you can do anything. 
 

Marla: Got a dog? Try the dog park; there is no better way to bond than over discussions about pedigree or training tips. 

Are you a ham? Karaoke bars are still quite popular and a lot of fun.  Are you a wine connoisseur? Many men now are really into wine and have wonderful wine cellars to fill. Join a wine tasting club or class. Flirt and mingle over a marvelous merlot. 
 

Are you a bookworm? Meet like-minded men at your local bookstore. Peruse the travel section, and you just might be planning your next trip with a new man over a cappuccino at the bookstore café. 
 

Marla: Women should try to take each situation and relationship as a fresh new experience. Don’t drag old baggage or bad experiences or blame onto the new person. It is not his fault that your ex cheated on you or ran up your credit card bill. Learn from your experiences, be cautious and aware but let him prove himself on his own merits. 
 

Marla: I say that sometimes “looking” is really “losing.” Putting too much “on” finding your soul mate and trying to “make it happen” really does the opposite. That energy of desperation and trying to force a situation actually pushes that which you desire away.
 

Stay focused in your mind and affirm that love is all around you and that the right man will reveal himself to you in the right time. Hand over that job to the universe knowing that everything is being handled for you. Timing is something that cannot be forced. 
 

Marla:  Here are  four big turnoffs:

1. Wearing too much make-up 

2. Inflated lips (collagen, etc.)

3. Whining, complaining and talking too much

4. Having a sense of entitlement. Meaning, expecting him to buy you gifts and paying for everything from the get go. 
 

If a woman wants to keep a guy’s attention she should:

 Stay in shape, dress classy but still show her figure. 

Have your own life, interests, hobbies and passions.

Go with the flow, be agreeable and try new things.
 

Marla: This is easy. 

Stay in shape.

Give him plenty of sex.

Support him in his endeavors and dreams.

Cook him a hot meal once in a while.

Don’t nag, whine and complain.
 

Marla: Men want an attractive, slender, easy going, positive, fun and down to earth woman. 
 

Marla: A woman does not have to be extremely beautiful to find love. But let’s face it. Men are visual. Men are not attracted to flab and cellulite. A woman who takes pride in her appearance and her health is sexy. Be your best you in the physical and the mental. Men love intelligent, bright, curious, self -confident women. It is so sexy! 
 

Marla: Be patient and work on yourself first. It is true that you cannot love someone else unless you love yourself. If you don’t love and care for yourself and you are in a relationship, you are most likely in a co-dependant situation. 
 

Marla:  A mutual friend introduced us. I do believe that my spiritual practice and work that I have done on myself opened up the channels and opportunity and readiness for us to be together. 
 

Marla Martenson is a professional matchmaker and the author of Excuse Me, Your Soul Mate Is Waiting and Good Date, Bad Date.

Widely considered one of the top matchmakers in the country, she uses her skills daily to help singles find the love of their lives.  Marla lives in Hollywood California with her soul mate, husband Adolfo. 

To purchase Marla's latest book, Good Date, Bad Date, click here. 

Visit Marla's website at http://web.mac.com/marlamartenson/Site/Marla_Martenson.html

 

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